Isabella Rossellini said,
“Adoption has the dimension of connection — not only to your own tribe, but beyond, widening the scope of what constitutes love, ties and family. It is a larger embrace. By adopting, we stretch past our immediate circles and, by reaching out, find an unexpected sense of belonging with others”.
Before we had our Match Call which in the adoption world it is like “Speed dating” we talked through email constantly. I still have EVER email. Like in my previous blog “Are They The Right One’s?” the adoption agency verified my pregnancy and we connected with each other. They wanted to proceed and I wanted to proceed.
The first week in May 2014, my adoption counselor mediated the Match call. A match call is where the counselor ask question and all parties involved give answers. It serious is just like speed dating. We talked about religion, parenting, why we wanted adoption, what open adoption would look like, involvement in each other’s lives, and if all parties are comfortable and liked everything said plus connect, you are matched.
The match call lasted about 45 minutes to complete and it rectified my feelings I had about a month prior after our first phone conversation. In the conclusion “J” asked “Dad N, Dad S” and I if we would like to be matched and of course it was unanimous that we did.
To become matched was a beautiful process that makes the adoption journey official. This was the exact moment when two families start to become one.